Up next on the Mom-series is Lana, she is our – Mom who lost her mom. She is brave, she is kind, she has the most beautiful smile, she talks way too much, but I wouldn’t love her any other way, Here’s her story…
Tell us a bit about yourself:
Hello Pretties, I am Lana Tillack, Durban Lifestyle Blogger of PrettyBraveMom Blog.
I am 27 years old, Born and raised in Durban, SA. Christian, family orientated. Married to one amazing man – Nick Tillack and Mommy to Keston. Raising boys! First time mom, sharing my journey as wife, mom and human. Love making new connections! I am passionate about the workplace, people development and labour law enforcement – HR Degree graduate and HR Assistant for The Beverage Company. Blogging has connected me to amazing woman around SA and I am so glad I attempted it a year ago! I share on life, motherhood and brands we love. I have an interest in photography and documenting our days is essential to me, I enjoy baking cupcakes, blending up a smoothie, yoga and fitness, lastly I have to add that I am obsessed with pretty shoes.
Describe your typical day in 5 words or less:
Early Mornings, Unpredictable, Challenging Work, Smoothies, InstaGram
Name 3 things you can’t live without:
Jesus, Coffee and My Boys!
Lets see your mom bag and what’s inside!
Sling Hand Bag – Hand Cream, Mints, Pen, Note Book (I write everything the old Skool way! – from groceries, stationary, car service details) Car Keys, USB, Cell Phone.
Name 1 thing you wish you knew before you became a mom:
What do you do when the kids are asleep or napping?
Day – clean, watch a movie or shop online! Nights alone (Hubby Away) I blog or read blogs, clean up, re-arrange the house – Nights with Hubby – we chat, watch series or sleep!
What’s the best part of your day?
Fetching my child from play school and seeing his cute smile and hands clap for me.
Name a few of your mom Guilty pleasures:
Eating Keston’s Snacks, Chocolate Alone in my car, Jelly Sweets, Coffee Selfie Dates.
What has been the scariest moment of your mom life and who did you look to for
Keston’s Fever broke 40 degrees, I called my dad to the rescue as hubby was working for the annual shut down.
Who is your hero and why?
I have Two – My dad is Mr Best – he raised me as a single parent, provider, honest sportsman, Loves God and Family.
My husband – I call him Mr Incredible as he inspires me, faithful, amazing husband and loving father. He truly is a man of his word – I am grateful to have met him and watched him grow into the man he is today.
Name one thing (anything) that you would do if you weren’t afraid and were fearless and there were no consequences and nothing to hold you back..
Name something that your mom taught you that you have taken into your own motherhood / parenthood..
She insisted on moisturizing daily! She explained we only have one skin so we must look after it, I still remember her applying the Elizabeth Ann’s pink lightly fragrance lotion on my hands and legs as a kid. I apply Johnsons non fragrance to Keston’s skin care daily because of her teaching.
If you could be anyone for just one day who would you be?
A kid eating ice – cream for a day
Getting too frustrated with a situation – screaming and crying in front of my kid! Total mom fail.
How has motherhood changed you?
My heart is kinder, I am more patient, I enjoy the simple things and see the world
very differently through the eyes of my child. I appreciate my sleep-in days more, even if they do come once a year.
My Son kissed me on his first birthday! He doesn’t like kisses so trust me this was a
Proud moment for me!
If your house was burning down, name 3 things you’d grab besides the kids and pets?
File (ID, Passports, Marriage & Birth documents,)
Wedding Ring ( I need Insurance)
Show us a photo of you at your worst point during your mom journey and tell us why you chose it.
Worst Photo – I was frustrated with Motherhood, Six weeks after the birth of my Son.
and a photo when you were at your best during your motherhood journey and tell us why you chose it.
Best Photo – Six months into Motherhood and I was glowing – changed my hair colour, diet and relationship goals!
Name one thing you would change about yourself and one thing you wouldn’t.
I would change my way of thinking as it would change my life – I tend to over think and in the most negative way! Especially about myself I wouldn’t change my smile, I honestly feel that my smile brightens up a room!
What piece of advice would you give to a new mom starting her journey?
No mom is perfect, we all go through stuff while trying to balance life as we know it. Each day is new and never the same! Enjoy your motherhood and don’t compare your life to that of a tiny square captured on social media of another Mom.
Who is your biggest support?
My dad – he is simply the best.
What is the best part of being a mom?
Best book you’ve ever read:
The Purpose Room By Heather Lindsey.
Have you ever been judged for how you do things as a mom or how you parent? If so why?
Yes – I take advice only if I am willing to believe in it! I honestly felt that as a first time mama with no mom to help me, it was best I learn, fail and grow at certain things in motherhood than take the advice from elders who I couldn’t trust!
Worst parenting advise you ever received?
Sleep while the baby sleeps!
Do you think that losing your mom so early in life has changed the mother you are now?
Not at all, God knows why he took her from me so young and I knew one day he will bless me with a family of my own, so by age 11 I prepared my heart to be loving to all moms and show no sadness or hate for the loss of my mom – at one point I was in denial of her death and came over it after a year.
If you could have just a moment with your mom, what question who you ask her?
Are you proud of the Woman I have become?
What advice can you offer another mom who has also just lost their mom?
It takes time to heal a broken heart, pray and stay close to God, I don’t think one will ever overcome the loss but there are beautiful memories you can keep in your heart that will bring light to your life, pass the memories of her down to your children so they live on in their hearts xx
Thank you Lana for allowing us a glimpse into your life and beautiful heart. You definitely are a PRETTY BRAVE MOM!
You can find Lana on Instagram : @prettybravemom
Facebook : Pretty Brave Mom
and she blogs over at : Pretty Brave Mom Blog