Next up on the Mom series, we have the lovely Dani, here is a peak into her life! Enjoy!
Give me a little introduction (a few sentences about yourself)
I’m honestly just another soul trying to figure out who, what and how they fit in this realm. In the process, I have somehow been awarded with the pleasure of mothering other souls on their own journey
Describe your typical day in 5 words or less.
Name 3 things you can’t live without.
Drinking (water or tea)
Smile or laughter
Attach a picture of your current mom bag and what’s inside.
Makeup bag (there’s no makeup in there) , 2 note books (small and big) ,Glasses , Pen, Lip balm, Car Keys, Wallet.
Name 1 thing you wish you knew before you became a mom.
That motherhood is imperfect in every way and I should stop trying to be the perfect mom.
What do you do when the kids are asleep or napping?
Watch series. I should stop this because my face doesn’t like less sleep
What’s the best part of your day?
All day. I think there so many things that are beautiful in my day. It’s the perspective that’s important
Name a few of your mom Guilty pleasures.
Eating out alone.
What has been the scariest moment of your mom life and who did you look to for support?
I don’t replay these moments, and would rather not discuss them and bring them back from the “dead”. I deal with things when they happen and move past them. The lessons learnt move with me. But I have the best supportive structure in my friends in family.
Name one thing (anything) that you would do if you weren’t afraid and were fearless and there were no consequences and nothing to hold you back.
Probably leisure travel the world with my kids. All the time. I think it’s doable. But I and my husband have concerns about our elderly parents.
Name something that your mom taught you that you have taken into your own motherhood / parenthood.
To have a charitable heart. I hope my kids learn that and teach it to their children too.
If you could be anyone for just one day who would you be?
You must think I’m the worst to interview… but no one. Lol
I have things I like from other people. Maybe if I put those together to make one person, then I could want to be someone else.
Lol, I have those every day. My kids speak their mind and don’t hold back. So they let me know.
There really are too many to pick one.
I wish we would stop calling them fails though. Such a negative word for something so natural. There’s a lot of joys in the imperfect.
In what way/How has motherhood changed you?
I think I’m more accepting of people and situations. I have relinquished all control I thought I had in life.
If your house was burning down, name 3 things you’d grab besides the kids and pets?
The house is burning down, the family is safe… Why am I thinking of things to grab? Lol. I really honestly can’t think if anything. Everything is replaceable in that house. And if it’s not… well… we’ll survive without it.
Send me a photo when you were at your worst or best during your motherhood journey and tell me why you chose it.
“When the kids are happy and self assured, those are the best moments” I think this comes out more when they’re doing water activities. Their joy and confidence is so prevalent then. It’s so assuring to me to see them in that state.
Name one thing you would change about yourself and one thing you wouldn’t.
Nothing. There’s only one of me. And there’s one of you too. The world needs all of us.
But if it where something physical, I’d probably get a tummy tuck
What piece of advice would you give to a new mom starting her journey?
Motherhood is mostly about instinct. And most of us are just winging it. Connect with yourself and understand who you are and why you are, so that you can hear and trust yourself. And it’s okay to feel overwhelmed or cry. Very normal part of the process.
Who is your biggest support, attach a photo of you and him/her
My Husband… He would rather be in the background. No photos.
What is the best part of being a mom, only ONE thing please, I know it’s a hard one.
Sharing this beautiful life with other souls that are a constant reminder of how favoured I am.
Best book you’ve ever read.
Very cliché but the alchemist. Changed my life.
Have you ever been judged for how you do things as a mom or how you parent? If so, why?
Yeah, it probably happens all the time but not a lot of people are brave enough to say something. Lol.
The one I can think of is someone (Family) asking why my kids speak English more than their native language and I should teach them more.
Worst parenting advice you ever received?
You must let your child cry it out. This probably works for some people but not for me.
Tell our readers something unique about yourself. (A hidden talent or maybe a secret project or something you are passionate about).
Many people assume that I talk a lot… I’m really lazy to talk most of the time. Unless it’s a speaking engagement or work meeting. I enjoy keeping quite. I really like listening to others talk and watch their excitement and passion about their life.
And you would probably have a greater chance of seeing me cry out of joy than sadness. I don’t cry out of sadness. It’s a different story when I’m angry which rarely happens.
When did you know you were ready to have kids?
I always knew I will have my 1st child at 25. I don’t know how. Call it feeling. So I was always ready.
What’s the best trip you’ve ever taken?
It’s definitely the 1st ever trip I took on plane. I was going to Cape Town. As young as I was, I knew that travelling was my thing on that trip.
thank you for sharing a bit of you with us Dani ❤
You can find Dani over on instagram : https://www.instagram.com/thatladydani/